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In some cases, childhood sexual abuse destroys the very core of someone’s soul, the pain too deep, sadly resulting in permanent loss of life-solutions. As you move through puberty and onto adulthood, childhood sexual abuse infiltrates and intertwines with your developmental growth.
In the subconscious of your mind, it influences and shapes who you are, as you navigate through the reality of a life you didn’t choose to be a part of, while “stuck” at the age when the abuse occurred.
If you want to gain the coping skills and ability to move forward living a healthy and productive life after childhood sexual trauma, you must have multiple support resources as you walk, talk, and step beyond that pain. Whether the healing comes from faith, prescription psychiatric medication, individual support groups, or a combination of therapeutic treatments, it is the beginning of true and raw healing.
As children grow and develop, the damaged emotional stage you’re stuck in is the age when the abuse occurred. In other words, your emotional, mental, and physical development is stunted. Trauma survivors are stuck with something I refer to as a “trauma-related brain barrier”. As a result, our emotional growth is hijacked, leaving us cognitively trapped in the trauma’s emotional mess. With the brain’s adaptive defense ability, your subconscious mind attempts to cope with the never-ending grief of a lifetime of failed relationships, personal disappointments, and the lack of emotional growth.
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My journey to full recovery began when I moved to Florida in 1987 with my parents. When I first arrived, it had not been two years yet before I started experiencing the worst anxiety attacks of my life. I felt fear and panic like never before; so much that I thought it must be a heart attack! Thankfully, a trip to the hospital informed me that it was just a panic attack, prompting me to seek help from a psychiatrist. Mental illness was still seen as something taboo, but thankfully the medication they prescribed provided relief.
Afterwards, I was referred to a psychologist for therapy which helped uncover emotional trauma I had experienced from the age of 8 – 11; PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) was eventually diagnosed as the root cause. This diagnosis opened doors for further healing and eventually enabled me to reclaim my life back. People just can’t find the resources or support to help them heal and live a healthier and better life after trauma.
It’s a continuous learning process. My parents have always been a pillar of inspiration in my life. From the moment I disclosed my childhood sexual trauma to them, they never judged me or questioned its validity; rather, they provided comfort and safety so I could freely share what had happened. This led me to experience the therapeutic process where I was able to truly catalogue my emotions, allowing for their release – ultimately ending with forgiveness.
No longer seeing this person as a monster, but instead recognizing how much help he/she needed through resources such as prison, rehabilitation and support groups. Nonetheless, this is not about him/her; this is about us: survivors equipped with the strength and courage to confront our traumas, those currently facing sexual abuse and those striving to create change.
To create this safe web space for survivors to share their stories and experiences with treatment, addiction, self-blame, and self-injurious behaviors, like “cutting,” I was inspired by my mother. I have found it effective to be real, raw, open, honest, self-disclosing, and to open the wounds of those gut-wrenching feelings. You may wonder, “Why bother dragging up the past?”.
As an adult, if your childhood traumas affects your emotional growth, then you must deal with them before you can move forward in life with happiness and health. After child sexual abuse, healing takes time and effort every day until the pain no longer controls your behavior and how you react to daily situations.
This safe space is a nonjudgmental, compassionate online support for those struggling with trauma as a direct result of any kind of childhood sexual assault and violence.
Whenever immediate assistance cannot be found, anyone can turn to this website, Sweet BeaZ House, for a secure way to find community support, educational, and therapeutic resources. As a bridge, it connects trauma victims to resources when they can’t get immediate assistance. Incidents of child sexual abuse, such as rape, exploitation, sex trafficking, molestation and incestuality have been on the rise in recent years.
This has prompted a need for more candid dialogue about the different types of support available for those needing key services. Currently, however, there appears to be a disconnect between getting victims immediate help through mental health institutions, the medical community, and the justice system. The sooner victims acquire counseling and aid, the sooner their recovery can commence. It is evident that millions of us are enduring the effects of society’s decades of unawareness and justification of child sex abuse. In the late 80’s and early 90’s, few prevention measures were in place, and these mainly revolved around educating children on essential protection techniques. This was a vital initial step, but to truly counter child sexual abuse something greater and more varied had to be achieved.
Everyone can help stop child sexual abuse. Ask the right questions of anyone you suspect, and know that if you have been affected by it, there is help available. It is important for those around children to understand that such behavior is an offense, and to remind them that they are entitled to feel safe in their own bodies. In order to provide information and hope, Sweet BeaZ House launched an online web service to provide information about child sexual abuse. Although it still affects many children, adults and their families, individuals need the courage to confront sexual abuse directly. Anyone who needs assistance can find it here. The right information and suggestions help people find the strength they need to make the right choices.
Last but not least, if you care about prevention and child sexual abuse has touched your heart, please click on the link to our Donation page. Sweet BeaZ House is funded almost entirely by donations like yours. Every donation, no matter how small, means the continuation of our resource services.
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